All your hard work paid off and you’re finally taking that babe on a first date. However, now you’re dealing with the stress that comes along with said first date. You want to impress her, not make her too overwhelmed. You want to talk to her, but not talk too much. You may let your nerves get the better of you and then freeze up. First step, relax. We’ve got some mental exercises for you that will help you reduce that stress and get you ready for game time.
1) Quiet Time
While you’re getting ready for the date, give yourself at least half an hour of quiet time. This will allow you to focus on yourself. Try to not think too hard about the evening. Remember you’re not the one in charge of the date and it’s not your responsibility make sure everything is on point. Remind yourself that you can’t control everything and breathe. Let it go. The quiet will help you feel calm and centered.
2) Affirm Yourself
Look yourself in the eye and tell yourself that it’s okay to make some mistakes. Remind yourself that it’s not the end of the world if you drop something. Tell yourself that you’re a great guy and you really got along well when you met. This is the same chick that you’ve been talking with for a while now, so relax. Focus only on what you can control and let the rest go.
3) Visualize the Date
On the way to pick her up or meet her you can visualize the way that you want the date to go. Try to not plan out every detail. Instead think of things like ″we are going to dinner and then we will go for a walk around downtown. If we click we can grab a coffee.″ Try to not set times on what you want to do on the date either, she may suggest something else to do during dinner and if it sounds fun you should try it. The key is to visualize it going well. You want to imagine her smiling and being engaged. The more you visualize a happy ending the more likely it will be.
4) Think up Conversation Topics
Check out her profile the day before your date. See what she’s into and pick out things that you can talk about. Women tend to talk more than men when they are nervous, but that doesn’t mean that she doesn’t want your input. You also can take a chance and lead the conversation if you really are interested in a topic. Stay away from anything heavy like children, death, and absolutely politics.
5) Give Yourself a Minute Before You Pick Her Up
Get to your location about fifteen minutes early and sit in your car. Either talk to yourself or think to yourself about how you want the date to go. Breathe and center yourself. Try breathing in through your nose for 3 seconds then breathing out through your mouth for three. Repeat this until you feel the nerves go away.