Safely figuring out the difference between flirting and genuine interest is risky business. Here are a few tips to help you crack the code and score a girl as interested in you as you are in her!
1. She aims to be heard.
When you walk into the room, does she suddenly gets a little louder? Does she laugh more; is she more engaged in the conversation? The biggest thing guys miss is that most women are the opposite of direct; they want you to notice them, they want you to make the effort to talk to them instead of leaving it up to them to break the ice. She’ll raise her voice to test two things: whether you’re paying attention to her, and whether you recognize the sound of her voice. If she does this, chances are she wants you!
2. Her body language shifts gears.
If she tilts her head down a little bit when she talks to you, and then plays with her hair or puts her hands behind her back, she’s probably trying to tell you something. Some chicks are genuinely shy, but if a girl does this and – this is the important part – maintains eye contact, then she’s trying to grab your attention and hold it. Watch how she talks to other people, and look for other changes in her stance when you’re around. She might not want to say it outright, but her body will almost always give her away.
3. She laughs at all your jokes.
Yes, even the bad ones. And we’re talking real laughter, not the quiet trailing giggles the girls at the office get when you make a crack. Plenty of women admit to laughing off situations that make them uncomfortable, but if your stupidest gag makes her eyes sparkle and the smile shows all her teeth then she’s for sure feeling it.
4. She makes comments about other women.
If she doesn’t know you too well yet and she asks you if you’re bringing your girlfriend to an upcoming party, or assumes aloud that you’ll be spending a holiday with your girlfriend, she’s not trying to rub in the fact that you’re single. She’s probing, dude! Again, it’s all about being indirect. This is an easy way to see if you’re already taken – and if you’re not, it gives her the chance to admit that she’s unattached herself.
5. Casual contact.
Does she touch your shoulder to get your attention, and then leave her whole hand there for a second? Has she started brushing your arm with hers when you stand side-by-side, or maybe even holding your arm in both of hers when she wants you to come with her? Congratulations, bro, you win. Touching is a really big deal to the ladies, and if she initiates it comfortably more than once then it’s settled. Ask her out!
The most important thing to remember is that most women won’t be direct when they’re into you. They want you to notice them, but they don’t want to scare you off by pushing too hard too quickly. Not every girl is bold enough to just say that she likes you, so keep your eyes open for these and signs like them, and be ready to be the direct one when you’re sure she wants it!