What You Should Do if She Gets Jealous Easily
So you’re dating a girl. Good for you. But you have this problem. Maybe every time she sees you talking to a woman who’s not a waitress, a co-worker, or related to you, she gets possessive, winding around you, and jealous, snapping at everything the other girl says. Or maybe you have a particular friend, a single woman you’re close to, and the chick you’re dating snarls at your friend every time she sees her. You like the girl you’re dating, but this is getting ridiculous. What do you do?
Tip One: Parallel This
It’s not something we’d normally advocate, and it’s going to be kind of uncomfortable for you. It might work though, so it’s worth trying. Next time you see her talking to a guy other than your bartender, even if he’s one of your friends, walk up behind her and wrap your arms around her. Kiss her on the curve of her neck, give the other guy a teeth-baring snarl/smile, and ask who he is (if he’s not a friend) and ask what “we’re” talking about. Keep holding onto her, flex your arms a little if you have any muscle bulk, and embarrass her by kissing her, nuzzling into her hair, all that stuff. Basically, what she’s been doing to you. When she gets you alone and demands to know what that was about, say something like, “Babe, that’s what you’ve been doing every time I talk to a woman. It’s uncomfortable and embarrassing, isn’t it?” Hopefully, she gets the hint.
(Note: If you know you’re going to be around your bros and you plan to do this, let them know what you’ll do so they won’t start looking for the pod.)
Tip Two: Talk About It
This one is uncomfortable for both of you, but we hope it’s worse for her. Sit down with her some night you’re spending at her place or yours. Wait to turn the movie on or until dinner’s ready or whatever, a quiet time that nothing else is going on. Then just say, “Babe, you’ve been jealous lately, and it’s uncomfortable and embarrassing. What’s up with that?” Seriously, try it that way, especially if you’re normally confrontational. Even if she’s convinced she isn’t, it’s going to get her thinking the next time it happens.
Tip Three: Stop Her when She Starts
When you’re up by the bar and your bro’s current girlfriend also comes up to order, start talking to her, even though you know what your girl is probably going to do. Keep an eye out for your chick. When she comes up and kisses your cheek or tucks herself under your arm and asks, “What are we talking about?” pull away from her. Tell her neutrally, “[Girl’s name] and I were talking. I’ll come back when I get the drinks.” If she persists, lay down the law: “I’m having a conversation. I’ll be back soon.” She’s not going to take it well, and you can expect a fight later, but she might stop right then.
Tip Four: Up the Ante
This one requires some serious commitment on your part, and you better want this girl to be a long-termer.
No. We are not telling you to get engaged to a jealous chick who isn’t even technically your girlfriend yet. Would we do that to you?
Set up a romantic evening. Take her to that quiet place she likes, the one with the dim lighting and candles where it hurts your eyes when you try to read the menu. Buy her flowers when you’re walking around with her. Ask her to come back to your apartment, where you’ve set up something with chilled wine, roses, and strawberries or something like that. Really lay it on thick.
Once you’ve poured the wine and she’s all snuggled into you on the couch, tell her you want to be with her and only her. Tell her it doesn’t mean anything when you talk to other women; you’re with her, she makes you happy, and that’s enough.
Tip Five: Break Up with Her