You’ve Gotten a Yes to a Date; What Now?
Good going, dude! We’re happy for you. Not only have you met a woman, a woman you find attractive and who presumably thinks you’re at least not a total disaster, but she’s agreed to go on a date with you. Even if you’re not sure exactly what convinced her, we’re pretty sure you’re not complaining or overthinking it. We wouldn’t be. At least one of us is going through a pathetic dry spell. But now that you’ve gotten that date scheduled, you should probably figure out some things that are going to get her to want to see you again.
Step One: Go on a Movie Date
Seriously, we’re not judging you for doing something she likes. Of course, it’s going to help if you like it too; you won’t have to fake-smile and lie all the way through the date. Women pick up on both those things, and they do not like them. They kill the possibility of a second date and probably even of the first ending on a high note. So pin down something you’ll both like, and then figure out when. It’s going to partly depend on her schedule obviously, but you already know when she’s free, and you should know what she likes. From that, you can find something you’ll both enjoy; even if it’s crappy takeout Chinese while watching “Mystery Science Theater 3000”. We’re not here to judge.
Step Two: Make Yourself Presentable
You know how your mom or big sister or whoever would get all fussy before a formal picture, straightening your tie or shirt, combing your hair, wiping off that little bit of peanut butter on your cheek no one noticed until right then? Pretend she’s helping you get ready, or at least field-marshaling you through it. Take a shower, shave, do whatever you do to your hair, brush your teeth, and put on a little cologne; you don’t need to bathe in the stuff, and it better not be Axe or whatever. Pick your clothes based on what you’re doing, but whatever it is, make sure they’re clean and look good on you. Women judge on that, same as we judge them.
Step Three: Make a Good Impression
You might be meeting her wherever, or you might be picking her up. Whichever it is, when you see her, smile and compliment her on something like her shoes or hair or whatever—just not makeup or her body.
Step Four: Be a Good Date
We’ve all been on a date where the chick answered in monosyllables. We’ve also been on a date with a girl who won’t stop talking. Don’t be either of those. Ask questions, answer hers without going on forever, and pick up conversational threads, but leave her room to say something. You don’t need to say a whole paragraph at once. At the same time, don’t just grunt your answers. And if you answer with your mouth full, everyone will judge you, especially your date.
Step Five: Don’t assume how it’s Ending
No matter how well you think it went, don’t assume she’s coming home with you or you’re going home with her. There’s no better way to kill the mood than to assume she puts out on the first date, only to find out you have a long wait. If she doesn’t invite you back to her place, ask if she’d like to come to yours to have a drink and unwind. If you have a pet of a species she mentioned liking earlier, tell her about it and how it loves new people, even if it’s a fish. If she comes back, it’s okay to make the first move, but be ready to back off if she says to. There’s no way you’ll get a date with her, her friends, or their friends ever again if you don’t.
There you have it: five easy steps to help you not be a douche and to go from one date to two. Follow them, and you should be set.