So you’re at a bar, a party or a venue and you meet this chick who you want to see again. This means that you need to get her phone number. You know that these days a lot of things can be taken the wrong way and you don’t want to scare off a hottie because you accidentally freaked her out. And that’s not even taking into consideration talking you up to go in for the kill. There is an art to asking for a phone number. Follow these three steps and if that number is up for grabs, it will be yours.
Wait For it
These days ladies have to play it smart, they can’t just give up any personal information to random dudes who ask. Getting in and getting away with a number is a matter of timing. What you need to do is wait till the conversation leads you to get the digits. If you ask too early after meeting her you run the risk of scaring her off. The best way to ask for her number is in parting. If you’re ending the conversation or she is and you were enjoying yourself then it’s the right time to ask for her number. Not only does this give the girl a chance to get a feel for you, but it’s the most natural point in a conversation to ask for a phone number.
Being too aggressive right off the bat is a turnoff for most women. You want to ask her for her phone number, not take her to task for anything. What we mean by asking softly is that you need to frame it in a way that makes you seem casual. When you do ask after your conversation try saying something like ″Hey, can I get your number? I’d like to talk more″ or ″Hey, can I send you that song I was talking about, I can text it to you?″ Another way to ask for someone’s number is to say ″Hey, can you text me (whatever you can think of)?″ When she texts you, you will then have her phone number.
Know When to Walk Away
Sometimes, it’s hard to tell if a girl is trying to get away from you or just shy. If a lady tells you no or that she’s seeing someone, that’s a surefire way to know to back out. However, sometimes she just seems to be evasive or in need of a little reassurance. This is the hard part for any dude who just wants to go out with a hot girl . If she isn’t making eye contact or has her arms crossed over her chest and are turning away from you then take that as a signal to back off. If you want one last ditch effort, carry some paper and a pen on you. Say something like ″It was great talking to you, if you feel like it, here’s my number″. Write it down and hand it over. That way the ball’s in her court.