Chivalry isn’t dead, dude. It just mutated. Women of today don’t need you to get the door and they may not even need you to change a tire. Chicks these days do it all and it’s hard to tell what one is going to get snippy with you for doing something and what one won’t. That’s because the game changed up on us. Don’t worry though; we’ve got the golden rules for Chivalry 2.0.
Women don’t need you to just randomly open a door for them. If she’s in front of you, reaching around her to open the door is really just getting in her way. Not only does it make you look like you’re desperate for attention, you’ve thrown yourself into her personal space for pretty much no reason other than you wanted to be there. Wait and see if a lady actually needs help before you rush in on your white horse. Open a door if she’s behind you or has her hands full. Wait to see if she’s struggling before you say ″do you need some help?″
Don’t just do it for Her
Like we said before, girls aren’t helpless flowers. Treating them differently than everyone else puts them on the spot and they don’t like that. If you open a door for her and there are people close enough behind her, keep holding the door, bro. Seriously, letting the door slam in some poor dudes face is not going to win you any points from her or anyone else, for that matter. If she sees you helping out other people then she’s less likely to think that you’re just trying to get into her pants and more likely to see you as a good dude.
Chivalry works both ways. If a woman is holding a door open for you, don’t insist on waiting for her to go before you. Say thank you. We polled some women in the office and found out that one of the things that they get the most upset about is how dudes lack manners. Remember to say thanks when someone does something for you. It will put you above a lot of other dudes who just throw that sort of thing out of the window. She wants you to be polite.
Don’t Expect Anything
We know it sucks when you do all the right things and she’s still not into it. This isn’t your fault, either. Sometimes the girl’s just not going to say anything. Sometimes she’s going to be rude and glare at you if she says anything at all. The trick to not blowing this sort of thing up is to go into being nice without expecting a return. Don’t be nice to get something, be nice to be nice, trust us; it is something she’ll notice.
Know When to Bow Out
It’s kind of like not expecting anything, knowing when to tap out is important. Chicks tend to cross their arms and slouch when they’re uncomfortable. They also turn away from whoever is bothering them and avoid eye contact. If the chick you’re trying to help out is doing this, back off. Don’t snap at her or be a dick, giving her some space means that you’re showing her respect and that’s what this whole chivalry thing is about.