Keeping your game up means being adaptable; willing to change and ready to turn on a dime. However, while a little spontaneity is great, and can get you a great reputation, comes with its own risks, and too much can throw hit you with a penalty that sends you right off the field.
What makes it exciting
Girls these days aren’t satisfied with the same old dinner and a movie, pick you up at seven, home before eleven tactics that worked on their moms. (And their moms aren’t really into it anymore either, if you’re reaching a little higher on the age bracket.) Every girl wants a date that’s different from the last one, and most guys get pretty tired of the old first date methods themselves. Being more spontaneous with your first date makes for a more interesting jumping point for the relationship, if that’s what you’re after; likewise, if relationships aren’t your thing, most women are a lot more forthcoming after a single day or night of new and interesting things than they are after hearing your favorite pick up lines at the club.
The same thing applies to night life, although you have to be a little more careful. Don’t be afraid to switch it up in bed now and then; if one of you gets an idea that you’re both comfortable with, give it a try. The worst thing that may happen is; it’s not as much fun as you thought, and you don’t do it again. The best outcome would be that you find your new favorite position and open up a whole new level of sexual satisfaction. What could go wrong?
What makes it stupid
Unfortunately, being “the spontaneous guy” can take a serious toll on your reputation if you are not careful about it. Some chicks crave structure and schedule everything out a year in advance. It’s not your job to try to “cure” one of these girls of her rigid time structure, and trying for the sake of being spontaneous can ruin a relationship that was great until then. It can also result in a sort of self-sabotage, where your girl expects you to do better and more with each date than the last, and looks forward to everything being more and more exciting. While this could work for a while, before long you’re spending so much on admission to parks and gas to get to your latest “secret destination,” and taking so many random shifts off at work, the structure of your own life can start to falter. Between the impossible expectations and the stress of overextension, this is a one-way ticket to failure.
When it all comes down to it, the key is to keep things exciting just enough that they stay that way. If you go out of your way to be new and different, you paint yourself into a corner. By the time you’re being called “spontaneous,” it’s probably too late. The key to spontaneity is that it’s rare. Do something big and stimulating when you’re both bored, or when you’re both interested and able. It’s all about the balance between the mundane and the spur-of-the-moment.