You’ve managed to get a babe who is everything you could ever want in a girl. So now that you got her, how do you keep her? When you’re ready to hang up your dating pants and become Mr. Steady, you need to change the rules. It’s not just all performance in the sack, either. To keep her interested and build a strong emotional connection make sure you follow these 5 rules.
This doesn’t mean that you need to be pushy. Just make sure she knows that you are there for her if she needs something. This can be as simple as a ″ Do you need me to take care of anything for you? ″ text in the morning. Try to think about things that you heard her say that she doesn’t like to do and offer to do them every once and a while. Usually, she’ll probably say no, but if she does, then you’ve saved her time. She’s going to use that time to be with you.
One of the most common things that woman dump dudes about is being insecure. They want their men to know that nothing’s going on. Time out with your friends is good for you to just let it out and the same is true for her. Absence makes the heart grow fonder, someone said, right? Give her some space to breathe. If she’s going out with the girls, don’t text her every two minutes and call her. She’s out having fun. Women need to feel trusted by men if they’re going to trust us. Ask how her night was, but don’t pry. This is a good two way street, since she then won’t do the same to you.
She doesn’t want to hear about your high-school or college adventures. What she wants is to know about how you felt. This can be uncomfortable as hell for most of us, we know. Still, telling her that story about the time you were proud of yourself or the time that girl in the 10th grade rejected you will make you look more vulnerable. If she’s totally into you then she wants to know about you, where you come from, what makes you tick.
This is true in the present as well as in the past. If you’re not in the mood for something or having a bad day, just tell her that. You’d be amazed at how quick a woman’s attitude can change if you walk in and say ″This day really sucked, I’m going to take a shower″. She’ll ask what happened; she’ll want to listen to you. Women like to comfort people, so let her.
Let her open up. Even if you’re not too keen on knowing about her Aunt Jenna’s latest boyfriend, the fact that she’s telling you about her family means that she wants to include you. If she’s having a bad day, listen to her. As dudes we have this huge drive to fix something when it’s not going well. This is true if something’s got our lady-friend upset. But the secret here is that a lot of the time, she just wants to vent. You can’t exactly go punch her sister in the face, so this is the next best thing.
Try New Things
Well, it’s not all in bed, but the bedroom is one of the most important places that you can connect with your lady. Keeping the adventure and the spark in your relationship is important unless you want her to get bored. The trick to suggesting new things is to not be a creepy jerk about it. If you suggest something and she says ″I don’t like that idea″ or ″no″ then guess what? No. Put it on the back burner for a long time, aka, not a week. Pestering her is a surefire way to shut everything down. Let her suggest things too. It’s good to be adventurous together.