The aftermath of a rough divorce can feel like the end of the world. Even if you’re the one who asked for the divorce and this is what you need it’s a huge change. You’re tired, you’re probably at least hurting a bit for money, and you haven’t even thought about dating. Getting back in the saddle is important to making you feel like yourself again. If you’ve been out of the game a while then it could feel daunting to start. Don’t worry, we’ve got your back with some simple things that will make you look even more desirable than you were before the ex wife.
Update Your Resume
It sounds kind of off -base but hear us out. Most people in stable situations just let their resumes and online job profiles languish. If you’ve been at the job for years and are not looking to leave, then there was no reason to update it. You could have gotten a promotion, earned a new certificate, or been paid out raises. You didn’t care about it because it wasn’t something that you needed to advertize. However, now that you’re single, it’s important. It isn’t important because you’re looking for a job, but it will give you a major confidence boost. Reminding yourself of all of your accomplishments will make you feel more in control of your life.
Use at Least Three Sites
Don’t stick to one site. You’re going to want to use at least three so that you can get the most out of your time. Pay attention to the sites you use to avoid bad results. Make sure that you update your profile and try to get yourself some newer pictures. If you’re concerned about your build, try taking a photo from the chest up with your shoulders going out of the frame. This will make you look your best while avoiding any problem areas that you may have. It’s important for your profile to mention that you’ve been out of the game a while and talk up your accomplishments.
Get Out There!
Make contact with chicks! You’re dating, not interviewing for a wife, so don’t worry so much about age or where she is to start with. Nothing will boost your confidence more than a hot date with a twenty-two year old hottie. Don’t think that you need to even have great dates, either. Even if you’re just going to make a few emails a day, it’s something. You’ll find that dating is much easier the more you get out there and do it. The first email you send to a lady should be simple and short. Tell her what you found interesting about her then give her a little information about yourself. Don’t bring up the divorce right away. Wait a few emails in to slip that detail into the conversation naturally. Above all, keep trying.
Yeah, it sucks to have to be thrown back into the dating pool. Working with what you got will make the best impact on your future dates. Try to go into the dating game thinking about what good things you have to offer, not all the things your ex liked to bring up. Dating is just for fun, so don’t go into it too seriously from the start. Once you’re back in the game it will feel like you never left.