It’s one of the biggest dating hard spots to be in. You’ve fallen for one of your friends. She’s everything you want in a girlfriend and screwing this up means you could lose a friend on top of not getting a date. This is why so many dudes don’t do anything to get out of the ″friend zone″ and instead get pissed off when she doesn’t notice his hints. Pro-tip: Women can’t read your mind. Below are five steps to try to get that friend to know you want to take it a step further.
1) Don’t Stop Being Her Friend
When you notice how much you’d like to ask your friend out, don’t stop being friendly. A lot of girls can tell when guys start to get weird and it makes them nervous. They don’t know why you’re suddenly not the same kind of dude they like to hang with. It’ll put them on the defensive right away. It’s really hard to ask someone out if they’re nervous around you.
2) Ask Her to do Things Alone
Not in the creepy way, either. But you’re friends for a reason, you have something in common. That means that if the chance to enjoy a common interest alone happens, try to take it. Offer to go for a bike ride with her, or do whatever it is that you both like. The more time that you’re together and she’s enjoying herself, the more open she will be to starting a relationship with you.
3) Remember Small Things
Friends are usually forgiven for not remembering birthdays or what a favorite musician is. But if you happen to find something that reminds you of her, go ahead and pick it up. The trick with these small things is to not make them too often or too extravagant she’ll be confused and pressured if you’re buying her front row tickets to her favorite band. Less pressured, if you find a download link to the concert and mailed it to her. Women like to know that you’re thinking about them, but they don’t want to feel like you’re obsessing.
4) Be Genuine
If you are head over heels for your friend, it’s important to eventually tell her so. Don’t do nice things for her with the only goal of getting into her pants. That’s not very friendly. Be honest with her and don’t expect her to get the hint right away.
5) Ask Her Out
The final and most important part of making a friend a girlfriend is to ask her out. The number one reason why the ″friend zone″ happens according to women? The dude never asked her out. Since they were friends, she just assumed he was being friendly. Then they’re mad when he’s pissed at her for dating someone else. If you want something, man up and ask for it. This means to get it together and ask her to go on a date.
When you’re trying to make a friend a girlfriend you need to remember that there is no rate of panty exchange. Regardless of how your attempts to make friend into girlfriend turn out, don’t stop being her friend. Remember that you really like hanging out with this chick, she’s a good person. Just because she said no doesn’t mean she’s suddenly not.