Dating Site Success: Keeping It Working
Dude, good job! After all that time on dating sites, the couple hundred spent on monthly fees and the results you got that didn’t quite work for you, you finally met a woman you clicked with, who you could stick with and who liked you, and now it’s turned into something that might be permanent. At the least, it might be long-term. You might not be talking about moving in together yet, but you can probably see that on the horizon. You might think you can relax, but really, there’s plenty more you need to do.
You Hooked Up; What More You Need to Do?
It might seem like you’re done once you have the relationship going. It’s easy to think it can maintain itself; all you need to do now is close the bathroom door and pick up your dirty underwear, plus learn to cook more than bacon and eggs for breakfast so it’s not always her job to have more than cereal ready in the morning. But you can’t do that. If you do, your relationship’s going to fall apart, no matter how much effort she puts into it. One of the things you can do that’s actually pretty easy these days is keeping track of important dates.
Anniversaries: Kind of a Big Deal
We can’t say this is true for all women, but it is for all the ones we’ve dated. They keep track of dates that milestones happen in relationships. The big ones are usually when you met, when you became a couple, and when you moved in together. You can easily track all these in any calendar program; you can even get alerts in advance so you can be ready. You might want to note things like first kiss and first time you tell her you love her and she returns it; some women pay attention to the small dates. It’s no big deal to do it, and it’s probably going to make her happy, so why not? If you don’t want to make her happy, why are you even with her? Free that lady for a guy who deserves her.
Holidays can be kind of complicated and fraught. You know Christmas, and you can probably figure out when Thanksgiving is, or at least Google it or check Wikipedia. Pretty much everyone knows when Valentine’s Day is, if only for the way the prices of roses and heart-shaped boxes of chocolate drop suddenly on February 15. But you need to figure out a few other things. A big one starts with the question of whether or not she’s religious. If she is, she probably celebrates her religion’s big days. Then you also need to know her religion, which we hope you established pretty early on. If she’s a member of a non-Protestant religion, you have some research ahead of you. Catholicism has Ash Wednesday; don’t ask her about the smudge on her forehead then. Mormons have Pioneer Day, which basically commemorates the pioneers who settled in Utah as their holy land. Judaism has Rosh Hashanah, the Jewish New Year. Islam has Ramadan, which is more of a holy month than a holiday. There are many more religions, and all the ones we listed have many more holidays.
The holidays might not seem like milestones at first, but think about it. First, they’re the first of her holidays that you’re spending with her. Second, the fact that she’s letting you into her religious life—something that most religious people think of as one of the most important parts of their lives—means something. It means she trusts you and cares about you. In return, care about and remember her holidays; if nothing else, you’ll get laid for your troubles.