Communication is much more visual than verbal. That’s just a fact of nature, everything from bees to people use their bodies to communicate. The problem comes into the fact that most men are really bad at it. We’re too attracted to visual things to think about how we are coming off. No worries, below are five tips to master your body language and stop inadvertently scaring off the babes.
1. Don’t Loom
We get it, women smell pretty. You want to be close to them. The problem with this is that we’re usually bigger than women and us getting close means that we’re looming on them. This sort of posture is offensive and makes a woman feel like she’s being trapped. If you find yourself leaning down and forward, stop it. She’ll think that you’re creepy and aggressive, those sorts of feelings do not make her want to give you her phone number.
2. If She Steps Back, Don’t Follow
If you find women walking backwards or trying to get away from you, don’t follow her. She’s not being coy, you’re scaring her. When you frighten women they don’t want to be around you. Instead let her set how far away she wants to be from you and don’t pursue yet. Women want to be desired and wanted, but they want to get to know you first.
3. Shoulders Down
Keep your shoulders down and your neck straight. This is a self assured but laid back position that women find attractive. Don’t scrunch your neck down and roll your shoulders up and forward when you’re sitting or talking. Again, they attribute this to aggressive behavior. You want to appear calm and relaxed. Women are attracted to men who are aloof and observant. By keeping your posture laid back, you’re inviting conversation.
4. Lean Back, not Forward
When talking to a woman, lean back on the chair. Try to avoid the looming we mentioned above if you’re standing. By relaxing in your chair or against the wall you project a calming presence that women find appealing. It also helps you look like you’re in control of your surroundings and your situation without having to physically beat it into check.
5. Watch Your Step
When you walk, don’t walk like you’re about to kill someone. Instead make your movements smoother and more deliberate. You want to appear like you’re walking through life without anything to worry about. Try taking deep breaths while walking if you’re prone to marching around like you’re on drill. Intensity is great, but not when you’re just meeting a woman.
It all boils down to one thing; women don’t like to feel like you’re going to be aggressive with them. You want to get her phone number, not intimidate her. Talking to hotties isn’t easy, but she probably doesn’t realize that you’re nervous. Make sure that you are calm and give her some space.