The days when a box of chocolates and a handful of roses were good enough to keep your girl happy on Valentine’s Day have come and gone. These days, while gifts aren’t really the biggest issue, the way you act and the things you do on V-day can make or break a relationship.
1. Don’t be afraid to shell out some cash.
If you’re not willing to spend $20.00 on a modestly sized box of gourmet chocolates, don’t buy a box of chocolates at all. While your girl will expect something sweet, your money might be better spent on something more unique. Chocolate covered strawberries (homemade or otherwise) and a bouquet of her favorite flowers will mean more than a $5.00 box of factory-line chocolate and six standard roses ever could.
2. Know the guidelines.
Nobody talks about it, but there are rules at work here. Don’t buy any jewelry with a real “rock” in it on your first Valentine’s Day, unless you’re getting married. Don’t buy a living thing without discussing it first – as tempting it could be to bring in a new puppy or kitten, its risky business if she’s not prepared. Make sure she has a vase to put the flowers in, or get a batch that comes with one. Be considerate, it goes a long way to getting it right on the first try.
3. Plan in advance.
Guess what? She can tell when you throw something together at the last minute. She’ll smile and thank you and call you the same petnames, but she’ll notice that the roses are already a little wilted, or that they didn’t arrive until the end of the day, and that the box is a little bit dented in on her chocolates. Even if it’s just a few days in advance, make sure you’ve got your shit together or you’ll never hear the end of it.
4. Do something together that you both enjoy
Valentine’s Day isn’t about sacrificing your enjoyment for the sake of your girlfriend; as much fun as she would have going to see that new chick flick or shopping for three hours, she’ll be happier if she knows that you’re having as much fun with her as she is with you. The holiday is about couples not women, and she wants to show you how much she cares just as much as you do. If you can, take a short day at work or plan a day trip on the coming weekend. Visit your favorite beach, repeat your first date, go to the local zoo and treat her – and yourself – to something unique and fun.
5. Talk about it.
While surprises are great, make sure you talk things over with her before you make big plans. Don’t just decide you’re going somewhere, talk to her about what she’d like to do the week or so before the holiday and figure out what she actually wants – instead of a visit to the butterfly garden, she may surprise you by asking to go fishing.
The most important thing to remember about Valentine’s Day is that you need to know your girl to make things just right. Don’t be obvious, don’t be brash, and make sure you understand her enough to make plans if you really want to make them on your own. It’s a little tricky, but follow these guidelines and you’re on your way to perfection.