First Date Icebreakers
We’re happy for you, dude! You got the meeting part out of the way; you got the date set up, awesome.
And now you’re realizing you don’t have a damn thing ready to talk about, do you? There’s work, but special operatives can’t just go blabbing about their missions. (Or it’s just boring, but you can pretend you’re a special operative for now. We won’t tell.) Read on for more enjoyable things than the weather and movies one of you might not have even seen.
You Have a Passion, Right?
You have to have one. Everyone does. Even your weird uncle likes fishing enough to watch those boring shows about it. We think he has a magazine subscription too. So figure out the non-weird aspects of your passion (face it, every passion has something weird about it) and consider how you talk about it to people who know nothing about it. Come up with a talking point or two. If you’re into architecture, don’t go into a high class-level speech about it, but be ready to just have a conversation on the subject. If you’re lucky, she reads the chick versions of these articles and is doing the same with her passion. If you’re really lucky, you both have the same passion, or she’s at least already familiar with it, and you can get more involved.
Ever Been Anywhere?
At the very least, you’ve probably left your hometown for a few hours once when you were old enough to remember it. If you’re lucky, your special ops job sends you around the world on a regular basis. Don’t bring pictures or anything, but come up with a story or two about the time you said something in Japanese that made a woman slap you because you mixed up a couple of words. Or, if you’ve never had anything that funny happen while you’re traveling, just talk about the place itself and how it’s different from where you currently live and (if it’s not the same place) where you’re from.
Coming of Age—Everyone’s Done It
No, we’re not talking about when you started having to change your sheets every day. When did you move away from where you’re from? Where did you go to college? What was one of the first major things you did without an adult hovering around constantly? Or, if this is the kind of kid you were, when did you first steal the car and go for an all-day drive, then try to roll back the odometer? Just don’t be too blatant about ripping off a movie. Set it in Los Angeles or something.
Things to Avoid
There are things you probably shouldn’t talk about on your first date. For instance, don’t discuss how much you love her, unless your name is for instance, Ted. Don’t talk about what you’re looking for in a relationship for more than about a minute; you could scare her off if you go too far in any direction. Don’t talk about the first time you got arrested; that comes later.
And don’t talk about your job in special ops.