So you’ve been dating exclusively for a long while and now you’re debating about taking the next step: announcing yourself as a couple on Facebook. Some people choose to take this step super soon in the relationship and some people try to take it slower. Even others opt to not say anything and suddenly you notice that people are engaged or have a kid. When to announce a relationship is a very private and personal sort of thing. It depends on what kind of couple you guys are and where you are in your life when you post your announcements.
Early in the Relationship
When you are younger, this option is one of the most popular. You want all your friends to see that you’ve got a relationship (especially if she’s a babe). It also is something that younger people tend to define themselves with. You don’t have a firm career path yet and you don’t have a real legacy, so relationships are a good way to put a foot on the ground and define who you are.
The flip side of this choice, however, is that when you make an announcement before you really know someone they are now your Facebook friend and the whole world knows when things go south. If you have an especially messy breakup then you will probably have it for the entire world to see online. A lot of people have even used Facebook as the vehicle for their breakup and don’t even speak to the person that they were dating.
Long into the Relationship
Things have gotten more serious and most of your close friends know that you have been seeing someone regularly. When you wait till this part in your relationship many of your friends also become friends with your significant other. This makes the whole announcement process very easy. The most that you get will be a ″about time″ from friends and family. Most people who are established adults wait until this time to declare their relationships publicly. This could be because as adults they are busier and relationships while important are not central focus until they are established as long lasting.
And then there are those who never choose to change their relationship status at all. Many people who do that claim that they are too busy to really focus on a relationship. They may just never keep relationships long term and don’t see the point in declaring something that changes every few months. Some people were burned badly before in relationships. However, most common are the people who consider Facebook to be invasive and do not want to share their information with other people in an open internet context.
Depending on who you are you will choose different points in your relationship to make an announcement. It also depends on how close you are to those who are on your Facebook feed. You may want them all to know as soon as possible and then again you may not want them to know at all.