First Date Rules: The Best Venue Types For First Dates
Once you’ve scored your first date, you need to pick a good place. Online dating site rules are the same as any other rules. You want to impress a woman but not overwhelm her. Venues need to be personalized to suit yourself and your date. Before you offer a location, however, you want to be careful. If you want the date to show up looking smart then you want to give her a reason to. Bottom line is to not take your potential woman out to a cheap place if you don’t want her looking like a cheap date.
Also try to find something that can spark a mutual interest and allow you to talk to each other. You’re not going to ramp up your wooing if you’re both glued to a movie screen that only one of you really wants to see. Find something that you can connect to your date with that’s fun and will give you time to talk.
You make a better first impression at a great venue versus a Denny’s.
Denny’s is where you go after a concert at three in the morning and you’re trying to sober up. You do not want to make a first impression that way. Remember that you’re trying to impress a woman and get her to trust you, open up to you, and have a good time with you. Spending a little extra up front is probably a good idea.
Optimally you’re going to ask your date what the best place to meet up with her is. You want to tailor the experience for both of you. This means that you should ask about what she wants and then either meet her half way or go along. If the girl’s wants and likes are too far off of yours, you may not even want to set up a date at all.
3 critical elements that make a good “date venue”
Being able to talk. It’s really important that you can actually introduce yourself and talk to the woman. Getting to communicate with someone is the best way to get trust. We established already that trust is the way to get yourself in with a woman’s secrets.
You both like it. Find a place that you’re both comfortable with. A first date is not a good place to go to a brand new restaurant. You want to be able to say what you like and find some common ground with your date. It’s also easier to relax in a place where you both are a little familiar with the atmosphere.
You can dress up a bit. You don’t have to wear a three piece suit or look like you’re in a wedding. However you want to make yourself look just a step or two above normal. This will not only make a good impression on your date, but it will give you a chance to see how she dresses up.
Never commit to dinner – it’s too much of a pain in the ass if you don’t like the person you’re with and vice versa. Drinks are better. That makes it easier to exit if you’re not feeling it.
Women have exit strategies as part of their first date rules; you should have one too. If the conversation gets strange or uncomfortable then you need to have an out. It’s best to be up front with someone and say ″you know, this isn’t working″ then offer to pay for her drink and leave. There’s nothing wrong with being honest as long as you’re nice about it. Saying ″I don’t feel this″ isn’t saying that she’s a bad person.
In the same vein, keep track of how she acts towards you. If she turns away from you, keeps her shoulder turned towards you and shies away from being touched, she’s obviously not into you. She may be too polite to say so, but if you are perceptive to this, saying ″You don’t look that comfortable, maybe we should cut this short?″ is a graceful exit. It’s not personal if you don’t click, so don’t make it out to be.